10 Dec he doesn't love me anymore what do i do
Recent.y though he seems to be ignoring me. While I’m trying to be supportive to her, it also hurts to know I’m with someone who doesn’t love me anymore. I keep praying mine will come to his senses. And if it ever happens I truly believe I will be losing the love of my life. He doesn’t miss you When partners don’t see each other for a while, the first time their eyes meet when they reunite can pretty much go hand in hand with the first time you noticed each other and fell in love. We live together and he also has a freeloader friend who lives here that he spends all his time with and communicates with more than me. My bf and I have been together for about 11 months. The drinking and gambling implies that he suffers from depression, and yes, his friend is his anchor right now. New Relationship Anxiety (What It Is and 8 Ways To Deal With It), Calling Off An Engagement (15 Things To Consider), What’s The Rule Of Dating Your Ex-Boyfriend's Friend? Me and my boyfriend have been together for 9 months. He's human. Try to remember again that you are perfect, that you are great just the way you are and he will feel this good energy from you and give it back to you by saying he loves you without you asking for it. – you can easily make him fight for your relationship, obsessed and desperate to keep you – without you making any effort. And I try to help him with his alcoholism, he feels better when I’m around, and his anxiety is lower when I’m around… I have reduced his drinking slightly when I am around… But he is still drinking too much… He doesn’t want to be so dependant on alcohol but he just can’t seem to kick the habit. Maybe he is going through something? Do you have patience to wait until he is better? I don’t know what happened between the two of you, but I would try talking to him and asking him to just say how he feels and why he is angry, while promising that you won’t argue, disagree or contradict him in any way. Thanks a lot. They didn’t know how good of a person you were anyways. My boyfriend recently just broke up. I feel that he’s confused with himself as well, saying “idk”, “you are impt…” and a moment later saying “i’m tired of everything”, “i’m the problem”, “prefer being alone”, “happier around friends” etc. Love can’t be killed though, only relationships. Before i spend my money on it? We hardly choose to find out precisely what the issue is before coming up with a judgment. I don’t know me and I don’t feel anything. He is afraid to break up with you, but that’s what he wants. I wanted to have a date night but his female friend said she needed to talk to him. (Pros & Cons), Gradually or suddenly starts to ignore your texts and calls (and make stupid excuses for it), Prefers hanging out with his friends and family (without you), Shows you that you are not his priority anymore. Good luck! He doesn’t treat your friends and family with respect either. You can still be friends with your ex. I found out that none of that was the case and they had actually been romantically involved. You see, when someone has “trust issues”, they kind of send out this vibe that they actually expect their spouse to lie. So, listen to him when he's talking and avoid lashing out at him during the conversation. But also, empowered and excited for the future even though I can’t stop crying. Then usually a few months later ( and even a year later) they come out of the woodwork and contact you. But i just don’t know. but the way he behaves, I think he doesn’t love me because he replys my msg late, u doesn’t call me or talk to to me steady. If both of you decide to stay together, the next step is to think about how best the flame can be rekindled because it has to be brought back for the relationship to be successful. We tried to be apart. If you convince yourself that you are unlovable, old etc, it’s exactly what will happen. It might not be easy or possible to figure out the instances where such comments were passed, but the. He replied. Deep inside you know that he will do you a big favor if he tells your family about your problem, becuase no matter how mad they’ll be, they’ll also do everything to help you and get you off drugs. My boyfriend seems to have been distancing himself away from me. Yes Angela, I think you did the right thing. Great talks, laughing. we loved spending time with each other. I think that the difference between each other is that we love each other differently: I love him more romantically, more idealistic in a way, and he loves me more prudently. However, about 3 months ago, he mentioned to me that he thought he was never gonna love me as much as I love him. His response was “awww.” He then went to study abroad. I moved everything while he was working. Even if he doesn’t come to realize that he doesn’t want to lose you (which he may), it’s the smarter thing to do. yohhh everything you’ve said is exactly what my guy is doing!! He made sure I had no access to it and claimed it’s a privacy matter. He also seems to genuinely care about me. The same way you're hurting, chances are he's also hurting so try to understand him and never ignore his emotions. He told me that in the future he wants to live in a different country, but never mentioned anything about me coming with him. I just want my sweet affection man back I’m not sure where he’s gone…. To violate their trust. He never invited me to come, but I came to live there anyway. Deep down, just like you, I knew where this was going. Right now this is what you have, neaning this is all the time you have to see each other. This is ridiculous… if he does all those things then he is a coward and doesn’t want to be with you. Chances are he's just confused about how he's feeling, but will still love to. If you give it a try, the change in his behavior (in response to yours) will be evident in no time. I had to admit to myself, My child doesn’t love me right now. It will get better, but you have to allow yourself to make that happen. I told him off because I was hurt from his behavior. All we have is right now. But no kissing. But after, he sends me long paragraphs saying he loves me and I’m his and nobody else’s. If you've lost all hope and the relationships don't show any signs of improvement, you will have to call the relationship off to avoid future hurt. But not all hope is gone. I hope you do the right thing for you and remember – If it’s meant to be – It WILL be. Hi, He knows, obviously, that he can have you when ever he wants, because you have told him over and over. He was crazy about me in the beginning, said and did nice things for me, paid attention to me, pursued me, shared his feelings for me and that has all died off now (I didn’t expect it to last forever) however I’m feeling like there’s distance between us and we’re not communicating on the same level at the moment. Everything was going well, then we argued for a while over stupid things. On the other hand, 14 signs he doesn’t love you Image credit: Shutterstock – By Roman Kosolapov 1. Having a strategy is always a good idea. This has gone on for 7 years. I dated a guy 5 years ago and everything was fine for 2years till distance separated us and communication between us came at a standstill. On the other hand i kept irritating him via calls/sms that made him annoyed. because he’s yours! He said it was all a lie and he just liked the emotional high from making out. Hi my boyfriend and I have been together for over a year now and we live in a small room together behind his parents house. I told him I felt the same but didn’t say the words. Asking yourself questions such as ‘Why am I angry he doesn’t love me anymore?’ can reveal more than you can imagine. He didn’t say anything. I was indenial, thinking that its a phase. ), or doesn’t want to tell you where he is going and what he is doing, the red flag should be up. You can not repeat the same things that hurt your relationship again. I think that I would take some time to figure out WHAT exactly is causing the constant fights, becuase until it’s resolved you won’t be able to go on with the relationship and both of you may lack the motivation to stay. Until last week I went back to my hometown to visit my family for a day or two.. I think you know exactly what went wrong, and when you do – you have power now. If you want to keep him, and keep the love alive through lomg distance, you’ll have to give him freedom. It’s very easy to idealize someone, especially if you have invested a lot of energy in falling in love with him or her. The novelty has worn off..and I think that it's because I'd started to annoy him a bit by being clingy. From later texing him to say I was home and had left as soon as he told me to, he ignored me for 2 weeks. I apologize to him for my words he just ignored me. I’m confused. He is worried that I might not like them. I just want to BE with him, I’ve told him as much. He’s actually brutally honest. Lisa I appreciate that you have this blog for many people like my self who would like to hear someone’s opinion. Kay We used to be so happy and have so much fun.. then I started becoming really insecure and accuse him, and overthink about things. Communication, communication, communication! The more you obsess over him, the worse you’ll feel. But I’m not convinced. He came home to visit me over spring break. Talk to your boyfriend and find out if he wants to break up or if he wants to try to make things work. The next month was really stressful, he was moving house, we were saving to go on holiday in December and work for both of us piled up and I guess communication faltered. And is it really love or just a hole you want to fill through him (and him through you)? Hi I don’t know if they’re female or not and I do worry sometimes. This is kind of cynical, but move on. In this situation I would do what I would do as if I was separated, and this usually means to leave him alone. Hi Lisa, ok my situation is out of normal and is confusing. (Not that I expect him to, but it’s just kind of out of the ordinary.) Or move on. He says I’m crazy and is not going to listen to “drama”. Face it you’ve now replaced his ex wife face it your the next ex . How relieved would you be if you stopped loving a guy but knew that he feels the same and won’t be heartbroken by it when you tell him? I cried. His mental health is the worst I’ve ever seen it. It might also be because the relationship is. And when he does the same things for you, you’re ecstatic and beyond elated. I guess what I’m wondering is should I step back and not bring this up (I don’t want to add to his stress) and just go about my life or should I raise it with him? I told him to wait for a week at least, and since then I’m here, waiting. I’m trying to grieve for my relationship with him but also my 5yr olds relationship with him. I even watched the video about how to get him to want me/fall in love with me again, but it hasn’t worked since he isn’t around. Thank you x. There’s always a chance things will change, and he may feel different in as soon as tomorrow, but you can’t depend on that. I just don’t understand what is happening. You deserve to be happy, and as such, it's better to move away from a guy who treats you like crap all the time because of his lost feelings for you. Read: 12 clear ways to know if he serious about you. Now he feels differently. I've been trying to ignore it. During our finals week I was sick. Naturally, you’re meant to feel like that because your emotions are being reciprocated with honesty and of course, love. This is because he feels a lot of guilt from falling out of love. We had a fight continuously for 4 days, and it’s not just that, for a month now I realized that he’s not what you call sweet as before. Thinking, “my ex doesn’t love me anymore” is heartbreaking, and you can’t wait around doing nothing, especially if you don’t want to lose hope and if you believe in your relationship. 2 weeks ago he said we should break up because he doesn’t love me anymore. , but that might be the option if you don't wish to be drained and exhausted physically and emotionally. Take the first right step and everything will be alright. Pretty much every day. He says he loves me a lot but the longest conversation we have had is a hi or a nod of a hello. Well, thing is, I really liked him Now he's gone off me, is there anything i can do so that he'll be into me again? Even just a tidbit of advice would be highly appreciated, and if you read all of this, then BLESS you, and thank you so so much He claimed he waited for me while I thought he stylishly broke up with me and well I moved on. I’m not sure if I am just paranoid or if he doesn’t want me or if its just depression. Communicating with him helps you to evaluate both your feelings and his, to know if it is possible to make things work once more, or its time to say goodbye. He had kept it from me, claiming his lawyer & counselor advised him to do so, fearing I would want to rush into marriage when that is the last thing I want to do bc of our issues. Both of you should consider not being together anymore. I think that you should think about things when you are calm and relaxed and only then make decisions. He then responded I don’t want to break up that’s not what he mean. Supporting him means deeply understanding his situation right now and not fighting it. Up until a week ago when, after he had been acting distant for a few weeks, I asked him what was wrong and he told me he thought he didn’t feel the same as he did in the beginning. The way you describe him making you feel indicates an abusive dynamic. That he needs time to think and to be alone. You don't have to hate him for not loving you back, or for his emotions disappearing; for the most part, it was no one's fault. Hi, Lisa. I asked him if he even loves me & he said he doesn’t think so & that his head is all over the place, but gave me the whole I want us to still be close & be friends & I want to be there for you still. He is the very introvert type and sensitive guy. Me and my boyfriend have been together for over a year now; at the start of the relationship it was fantastic. qould advice you to take control of the situation and no where you stand properly. We’ve had a few bumps in the road. He diesnt call or text me till at night and when we start chatting, the next thing is he is sleepy. I think this is probably not the best time to bring up marriage. I understand that he is still hurt and is mistrusting, but I am no longer that person, because my addiction turned me into someone even I didn’t recognize. I hope the tips in this article helped you keep a clear mind and heart, during such a time and that as you get better, you also teach others how they can get better with the tips from this piece. Good luck! I feel its unfair to treat me, when he need me or to speak with me when he feels like it. We couldn’t really talk because he had gotten drunk for the first time ever in our relationship. 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